Busy ≠ Successful

Life lessons through sports.

3.27.23 | by Coach Mike Deegan

In Tim Ferriss’ book, Tribe of Mentors, one of his studies is Debbie Millman, founder and host of Design Matters. In the book, Tim asks Debbie, “If you could have a gigantic billboard anywhere with anything on it, what would it say and why?” 

Millman’s response: 

“My billboard would say this: ‘Busy is a decision.’ Here’s why: Of the many, many excuses people use to rationalize why they can’t do something the excuse, ‘I am too busy’ is not only the most inauthentic, it is also the laziest. If we say we are too busy, it is shorthand for, “not important enough.” Simply put: You don’t find the time to do something; you make the time to do something.” 

3 things to think about when you say, “I am too busy.”

1. Am I really? 

Where are you spending your time? What does your calendar look like?

When I wake, do I get moving immediately, or do I scroll social media and waste precious time? Am I being intentional with my time, or am I aimlessly going through the motions?

After an honest evaluation, I almost always realize I am not getting the most out of my day. If you are feeling overwhelmed, I highly encourage you to audit your time and priorities.

2. Where can I say “no?” 

One of my biggest flaws is that I have trouble saying a hard no. 

There are times when I just can’t do certain things. Instead of respectfully declining, I’ll often either say yes, or worse yet, put off saying no until a later date. We are all guilty of this.

What does delaying saying “no” do? It invites another conversation at a later date. In other words, it wastes precious time.

People want our time, and they’ll gladly take it if you let them. Beware of the time vampires!

3. Get Clarity

Once we clearly know our mission, we’re more effective. Not only are we clear with where we are going, but we develop the ability to effectively use our time. 

Where do you start? Say no to the things that distract you from achieving your goals. Staying on the hamster wheel of “busyness” prevents us from planning and getting focused. 

Clarity quiets the chaos and frees up more of your time.

Busy Is A Decision | Debbie Millman on Life Priorities

Busy ≠ Successful

For whatever reason, many people like to brag about their busy schedules. It’s as if we think being busy makes us successful. 

Who are the most successful people out there? The ones who have the most time. They are organized, they say no when they need to, and they are clear on their goals & objectives.

Avoid the societal pressure to be “busy.” Don’t fall for the trap. 

Remember, “Busy is a decision.” 

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Get in the arena

Life lessons through sports.

3.20.23 | by Coach Mike Deegan

“We have two options: We can be critics or we can be performers. But, we can’t be both.” 

– Author and Public Speaker, Michael Port 

No one wants to labeled as a critic or judgmental.

But that used to be me. I was a critic.

Of course, I wouldn’t have labeled myself judgmental. I would have said I was being observant or learning from the mistakes of others. Really, I was a critic and not a performer.


Performers focus on the controllable

“Controlling the controllable” is a common expression in the sports world.

When do athletes get themselves into trouble? When they focus on things outside of their control. The weather, the coach’s opinions, the umpire, the reporters, etc. They neglect the variables that are within their control. Their inner space. 

As a performer, focusing on the variables we control isn’t just optional, it’s mandatory. For example, when it comes to writing, I must trust in my process, otherwise what I’m conveying will appear fabricated & inauthentic.

I’m at my best when I write from the heart. If I focus on what others may like, or not like (outer space), the writing is not nearly as powerful.

Once the words are on paper, I have to possess the courage to hit send. That’s it. I can’t control anything else. 


Where to start

Start doing. Start making mistakes. Learn. Fail. Succeed. Share your thoughts publicly with the world. Stop critiquing others. Observe other performers.

The Man in the Arena – Teddy Roosevelt

Ask yourself:

What are inner-space behaviors in your profession? What are the outer-space behaviors? 

Do you find yourself frequently critiquing others? 

What is one action you can take right now to become a performer? 

While it’s not easy, many of life’s rewards are found on the other side of fear. 


Pair this article with:

> Are You a Critic or a Performer?

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Running Your Own Race and Focusing On Your Inner Space

Life lessons through sports.

3.13.23 | by Coach Mike Deegan


Shane Battier vs. Elton Brand: Who did it best?

Shane Battier

  • Played all 4 college seasons
  • #6 pick overall
  • 13-year NBA career, earning $56,569,622
  • Won each an NCAA Championship and NBA Championship

Elton Brand

  • Left after 2 college seasons
  • #1 pick overall
  • 17-year NBA career, earning $169,229,324
  • Never won an NCAA or NBA Championship

Comparison is the thief of joy.

To compare these two stud athletes is ridiculous and silly. They were both incredible basketball players. Oftentimes, we get so caught up in what other people are doing. Why waste the time and energy?

This mindset limits us in many ways, and it robs us of happiness.

How to stop comparing and start competing | Brett Ledbetter | TEDxGatewayArch

How to run your own race

Coach K is a master of educating others on how to run their own race. This is especially helpful in the highly competitive world of college basketball. Here’s how he puts it:

We tell each player that comes in…each of you run your own race, and collectively we run a team race. If Shane Battier was running Elton Brand’s race, he would have been disappointed. Kids come along differently: some faster then stop; some slower then fast; some fast and never stop. Don’t gauge yourself on how someone else is doing. Gauge yourself on how you are doing.


Focus on your inner space

Outer space

Outer space includes those things outside of your control. Playing time, what other say and think of you, friends, family, etc.

Inner space

Inner space includes those things inside of your control. Effort, attitude, work-ethic, coach-ability, etc.

Focusing on the outer space is a fool’s errand. Instead, focus on the inputs that you do control. Your inner space. Shane Battier is a prime example that we can all look up to.


Action Step

What is something right now that has been affecting you negatively or that causes you worry? 

Write down the portion of the issue that’s in your control. Everything is outside of your control.


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