A Letter of Apology

I owe an apology.  This is my first article since February, which makes this not much of a “weekly” newsletter.  Like the person who leaves the party without saying “goodbye”, I departed without letting anyone know.  Before I jump back in, it’s necessary to provide an explanation. 

Since we last connected, much has happened (which should be the case after 10 months).  Our baseball program had a strong season, my speaking and consulting business had its best year, and I shared surreal experiences with my family.  I found myself interacting and doing work with amazing people and organizations. If I were to post my highlight reel on social media, many people would be jealous. 

As I enter the second half of my life and career, I find myself in an interesting space.  Years and years of working in the shadows has created opportunities that 25 year old me would have thought were impossible.

I would be lying if I didn’t share how this period has been difficult as well.  There were times, many times, where I wished I didn’t have opportunities and decisions to make.  I also experienced public and personal failure. My previous life was comfortable; I longed for comfort to return. 

A mentor and close friend of mine likes to ask: “when you are happiest and most fulfilled who are you with and what are you doing?” This challenging time created crystal clear clarity.

1. My family: I feel extremely lucky to have family that I genuinely love to be around.  Their happiness is directly tied to my fulfillment. 
2. Working with others toward a shared goal: There’s nothing like having a big goal and working tirelessly with people you love.  Coaching provides a platform for this work. 
3. Doing creative work: I have a love/hate relationship with writing. When I finish a session, I’m typically energized. On the flipside, creating the time and starting the work can be agonizing.  This newsletter is my vessel for doing creative work. 

I’m amazed how frequently tough times are needed.  While we are going through it, we just want it to end.  However, once we are on the other side we realize the struggle was necessary and we are thankful for the experience. 

The highs and, more importantly the lows, of the last 10- months made me realize the things I value most are right in front of me.  Any new opportunity must allow me to prioritize family, perform engaging work, and flex my creativity muscles. Those things are non-negotiables. 

I’m sorry for going radio silent.  Despite being busy and doing interesting things, I realized how writing, sharing and learning is a part of my ethos.  I needed this time to figure it out.  I’m confident this 10-month period will make me better. 

I challenge you to reflect upon the question which has impacted me so greatly: When you are happiest and most fulfilled who are you with and what are you doing? Once the answer appears, fight to operate in those spaces as frequently as possible. 

As far as I know, we only get one shot at life on earth.  Shouldn’t we prioritize doing the things we love with the people we love? 

Mike

P.S. I will return with a new article on January 9^th.