Relationships > Networking: Ten Thoughts on Being Around Wise People

I’ve never liked the idea of networking.  It feels hollow.  However, I believe in connecting and working diligently to forge relationships. I’m convinced that being around wise people is a key to building a full-filled life.  Conversations with people who listen, challenge, inspire and elicit action are life changing.  They have the ability to unlock and unleash potential that we might not know exists. 

Over my life, I’ve often found myself in the presence of people who are highly successful. While I’m no expert, here are some random thoughts on how I’ve worked to create relationships with wise folks.

Ten Thoughts on Being Around Wise People

1. Do the Hard Work: Read, write, listen, pray, meditate, and spend time in self-reflection.  Without a working understanding of ones values and goals, finding an impactful mentor is difficult, if not impossible.  
2. Be Open: “When the student is ready, the teacher will appear”- Lau Tsu. Wise people do not have to be rich and famous- these people are all around if we are intentional about looking.
3. Courage to Ask: In my experiences people love to help. There are times where their schedules won’t allow but rarely, if ever, are they offended by an ask. 
4. Prepare, Prepare, Prepare: Time is the most precious thing to wise people, and EVERYONE is trying to steal it from them. When I get the opportunity to connect, I want them to leave knowing this was a worthwhile investment of their most precious commodity. I can do this by creating thoughtful questions that allow them to expand. The best way I’ve found to show I’m prepared is to ask powerful questions.
5. Zero Expectations: I never go into a conversation expecting a “silver bullet,” a job offer, or any other ego-driven motive. My goal is to be present, listen deeply and enjoy the opportunity.
6. Add Value: While it can be intimidating at first, I’ve found sharing my thoughts and opinions adds to the relationship. When the interactions evolve into a mutual exchange the real fun begins.
7. Pick up the Tab: Or at least offer to pick up the tab. Whatever money I’ve spent (even when I didn’t have any) was well worth it.
8. No Fans Allowed: Most people treat “stars” differently. The people I want to be around don’t enjoy that- they actually want an escape. The goal is to value their humanity not their status. I always remind myself, “don’t be a fan.”
9. Start Doing: It’s important to act on the advice received. Possessing the industriousness to take action is rewarding to the teacher.  This is a way to separate because most people want a quick fix. The best way to show you truly value the conversation and advice given is to put it into action.
10. Stay Connected: A one-time conversation is great- but a long-term exchange is when the magic occurs. I like to take the time to send a hand-written note to let the person know how much I appreciate their time. This is not always feasible or desirable, so go with your gut. This is also the perfect time to plant the seed for a follow-up conversation. 

This Week’s Challenge(s):
Is there someone you want to connect with?  This week, ask someone you admire for a phone conversation or a Zoom call.  If that’s too much, write them a thoughtful email.  Being around wise folks is a difference maker.  We owe it to ourselves to actively build meaningful relationships.

Second, is there someone that you can help on their journey?  As someone who’s life has been enhanced tremendously by giving and caring people, please consider helping out. You have the power to change someone’s life. I’m living proof.  

Finally, I don’t want to sound presumptuous but if I can help you or someone you love let me know.  Assisting others find their passion is one of my greatest joys.  I’m here if you need me.   

Make it a great week,

Mike